RECOGNIZE YOUR FEARS AND OVERCOME THEM
Overcoming your fears creates a powerfully exhilarating feeling. It builds self-esteem by changing your self-concept. It allows you to confidently take on new challenges. On the other hand, there is nothing more debilitating than letting your fears stop you from living the life you are meant to live.
Fear is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. There is no greater loss to the world than missing out on your unique contribution because you are afraid to fail or afraid you don’t have anything worth contributing.
We all have special gifts and talents. There’s only one thing separating most people from the super successful; it’s looking at your fears and making the decision that your goals are bigger than your fear and moving forward. Don’t let your fears keep you stuck where you are.
Banish Fear From Your Life
Are fear based limiting beliefs running your life? Do this exercise. Make 3 columns on a piece of paper. List all your fears in the first column and in the next column write down what's the worst thing that can happen if they come true and in a third column right down what your solution would be.
If you feel the need to discuss your limiting beliefs with someone, take the first five minutes to describe the problem and the rest of the time talking about what good is to come out of it and brainstorm a solution.
The reality is 95% of your fears will never be experienced. And now that you know the worst thing that can happen, and how you're going to resolve it, there's no reason to live with fear any longer. Make living in the present a way of life and you’ve already eliminated a high percentage of worry that leads to experiencing fear.
Everyone fails at something in his or her lives, even the most successful people. But the super successful treat failure differently than ordinary people. They see failures or setbacks as a guidepost to what doesn’t work and what changes need to be made to bring you one step closer to success.
Super successful people have no shame in failure; they celebrate it and move on. Every day ordinary people are realizing their dreams because they took action in the face of their fears. They didn’t wait for all the right contacts or every piece of information. They went for it, and so can you.
One surprisingly powerful way I’ve found to overcome my fears, I found totally by accident. It just dawned on me one day that this is how I frequently overcome deep-seated fears.
Let me share it with you.
When you are involved in a project that is bigger than yourself, something that will help other people, you forget all about your own personal fear. When it’s not about you it’s much easier to move through your fears. It doesn’t have to be ending hunger, just something to pull you out of your comfort zone.
Here’s a story of how I overcame one of my fears, being noticed. I always tried to be invisible. I grew up with very low self-esteem and was incredibly self-conscious. I didn’t like to draw too much attention to myself so one of my defenses was to dress very conservatively.
So how did I start modeling? Nobody that really knew me would have believed it in a million years. I did it because a friend asked for my help. So it wasn’t about me, it was about helping someone else.
I shopped at her store and loved her clothes. She asked me to help her out when she lost a regular model for a weekly hotel show. I was scared to death, but I only had to do it this one time.
Incredibly, the number of sales from the show increased with me modeling, so she asked me to stay. Since I was helping her increase her business, and I liked being helpful, I said yes.
It became clear to me that my mousy self-concept was almost the opposite of how other people saw me. I started modeling for other stores, doing big runway shows and some print ads.
I loved it.
The biggest benefit was not that I changed my wardrobe, but that I totally changed my self-concept. I had overcome a major fear of mine that had stopped me from saying yes to many opportunities.